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Encouragement My "Refugee" Journal

How Long, O Lord?

About three months ago, we started a new family rhythm. Every morning, after we finish our personal Bible reading, we gather to share what we read. It’s not a deeply spiritual time with gracious words of truth flowing from the mouths of babes and infants. Usually, it’s more of a rowdy free-for-all, where no one is able to complete a sentence without someone else interrupting, and soft-spoken Mom struggles even to be heard over the noise of the six brothers. And if, against all odds, a good discussion does manage to get started, one of the teens is likely to roll his eyes and moan, “How much longer are we going to be?? Can’t we just finish already?”

But by stubbornly insisting that we all show up every day, week after week, I’m already seeing encouraging fruit. Our discussions are wide-ranging, since we’re not all following the same reading plan. Today we were in Genesis, Exodus, Deuteronomy, 2 Samuel, Psalms, Proverbs, and Matthew. It’s super fun to expand on the kids’ summaries to show how the sections they read fit into the overall story of the Bible, and now they are starting to make connections themselves.

The benefits extend beyond our morning discussions. Recently, my 17-year-old son and I got into a deep conversation about evil, justice, and the frustration we feel when it seems God isn’t judging wickedness the way we see in the Bible. Primed by our daily jaunts through the entirety of Scripture, we followed these themes from Genesis to Revelation and into our modern era. In light of Russia’s war of aggression against Ukraine, this is a deeply personal question for us.

In the end, we were profoundly encouraged to realize God hasn’t changed. Though it might seem like God was always judging evil in the Bible, drastic divine intervention to curb human cruelty has never been an everyday occurrence. The few righteous people living through the sixteen centuries before the Flood probably wondered if God was ever going to act. The children of Israel suffered for a century under genocidal oppression in Egypt before God sent ten dramatic plagues to force Pharaoh to let them go.

God says, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.”

These waiting times were soul-crushing. People living through them felt hopeless. But God always stepped in, and from our vantage point, the final judgment takes center stage. We don’t consider how it felt to plead with God for decades or centuries. 

That conversation with my son reminded me that we are living in one of these waiting times. I shared with him some of the prophecies from the book of Revelation, and he was heartened to think that God will put an end to the injustice and cruelty in the world on an even grander scale than when he dealt with the evil Egyptian oppressors. Though we don’t see judgment yet, God has not changed. He has always given humanity lengthy grace periods before he steps in to alter the course of history.

God says, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.” I love that. I don’t need to make anyone pay. That’s a burden too heavy for any human. It’ll twist you and break you. But God sees everything, and he will repay. Hanging onto that hope is the only way I can bear the injustice of this world.

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Encouragement My "Refugee" Journal

Where is Home?

I just returned to Budapest from a trip to the United States. On my outbound journey, I transited through London. As I walked from my arrival gate towards the terminal, there were a series of advertising messages posted on the wall of the corridor. I couldn’t help reading them, because I’m a compulsive reader. The words on one literally stopped me in my tracks, and I took the picture above. 

Is home where you’re from or where you’re going? 

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Ready or Not

I recently read an article about falling birth rates. The author cited many factors that keep modern people from wanting to have as many children as past generations, and one common reason is that prospective parents just don’t “feel ready.” In fact, the author went on to share a statistic that for a growing number of couples, the only reason they had a child was because of an unplanned pregnancy. 

While my husband and I are obviously not part of this modern trend towards having fewer children or having no children at all, we still wrestled with uncertainty and fears before starting to have children.

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My Fifth Birth Story, Part 4

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Andrew at his lowest point, in an incubator bed with a total of 9 tubes and wires coming off his vulnerable body, including the bulky tube of high-flow heated oxygen in the upper-right corner of the picture.

That first day at the new hospital was physically exhausting. The most walking I had done since giving birth six days earlier was to go from our car in the hospital parking lot to the NICU after Andrew was transferred, and even that had felt like a stretch. But that was only the beginning.

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My Fifth Birth Story, Part 3

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Andrew had a splint on one arm to stabilize the IV catheter, and he had all kinds of wires running to different monitors. Even though he was mostly unresponsive to stimuli, his infant reflexes caused him to grab a fistful of these wires.

Because Andrew was so weak and lethargic, the hospital set me up with an electric pump and had me express milk to feed him from a bottle. Sometime during that first day or night, one of the monitors in the room started beeping loudly, and within seconds, a nurse appeared in the doorway and said that the baby’s blood oxygen level had dropped too low and told me to rouse him.

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My Fifth Birth Story, Part 2

You can read Part 1 here.

Cousins born on consecutive days in adjacent hospital rooms

At some point the next day I finally reached full dilation and started having the urge to push. While the hospital did allow water births, I decided to try using the birthing stool. It was a lot higher than I expected, and it was uncomfortable. But other than mentioning that I wasn’t comfortable, I made no effort to change locations. At that point in labor, a mother is simultaneously too focused and too overwhelmed by the birthing process to advocate for herself, and no one connected my calm, quiet comment that the birthing stool was uncomfortable with a real desire to move to the bed, which is what I wanted. 

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My Fifth Birth Story, Part 1

This was taken less than a week before baby #5 joined our family.

It’s been over five years since the birth of my fifth child, the child I never thought we’d have. Before we married, my husband and I agreed that we would like to have at least four kids, and after that, we’d see if we wanted more or not. Once we started having kids, it seemed to make sense to have them as quickly as possible, since I was already 28 years old at the time. For us meant that we had 3 kids in 44 months.

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The Best is Yet to Come, part 3

If you haven’t yet, read part 1 and part 2 first.

I enjoyed Andrew more than I had enjoyed any previous baby, but it was a bittersweet enjoyment. I was constantly thinking in terms of lasts. This was the last time I would get to take a newborn home from the hospital, the last time I would get to nurse an infant, the last time I would snuggle a baby of my own, the last time I would applaud my child’s first steps and first words. It was difficult to say goodbye to this stage of my life. So I was delighted when I found out that we were expecting baby number six, even though we hadn’t been trying to get pregnant.

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The Best is Yet to Come, part 2

The Three Musketeers & James

If you haven’t yet, read part 1 first.

The infant stage with any baby has specific challenges, so my experience is that it usually takes about six months to adapt to having a new child in the family. However, the adjustment was much easier with James than it had been with Peter. The three older boys could all walk without help, I think they were all potty trained, and they probably even dressed themselves by that point. The 2-and-a-half-year-old probably still needed some help in the latter department, but I’ve always encouraged early independence among my kids, and I could enlist the older boys to help him. By the time that James was born, Samuel, our eldest, was already 5 years old and able to be really helpful. It was a completely different experience—and easier—than when I had only had three kids. 

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The Best is Yet to Come, part 1

Our eldest three—when they were our only three

I have six kids—to be precise, I have six boys, ages 3 to 14. Other moms often express amazement over how I’m able to manage with so many kids when they feel overwhelmed with just one (or two, or three). I always affirm their feelings of difficulty or overwhelm and then share the secret I’ve learned from having lots of kids: it’s hard at first, but it gets easier the more kids you have, and there are great blessings that more than make up for the challenges.